Guest topic

Donna provided today's topic. I want to poll the masses (all 20-30 of you) to see what your opinion is of this scenario:

An employer (Donna's) has extended their workday. The office now closes at 8pm to better serve their clients. As a result, the employer decided to hold a 'shift bid' for the fifteen employees in her department. The employer decided to factor seniority and quality rankings to determine employee's place in the ranking process.

Donna bid to retain her current shift, as did one of her coworkers. This coworker is a friend outside of work for whom Donna has been more then helpful when the situation has called for it. She's loaned her money when things get tight, taken the daughter to events, arranged a birthday gathering. Donna doesn't do these things because she wants payback, she does them because that's the kind of friend she is.

The coworker came to Donna several times to ask if she was *sure* she wanted that shift, implying that she should bid for the shift that begins an hour later. This coworker also stated SHE wanted to shift because 'she likes to drive her daughter to school in the winter'. One, the daughter is 16 and two, winter? In Florida-it's not even freezing!

Because Donna rocks at her job, she was number three of the fifteen. Coworker was lower in the ranking and got the shift that starts an hour later-which is 90 minutes later than when she arrives at work after dropping her daughter off at school.

The coworker pitched a hissy fit. She is complaining to anyone and everyone who will listen that Donna is selfish and should give up the shift to her, because she needs to drive her daughter to school. Coworker complained to the bosses and is now bragging about bosses making some sort of 'accommodation' for her. However, she's not talking to Donna and is telling all that she's mad at her for not giving up the shift. (BTW, this coworker was also annoyed that I got to go to that Jaguars game-she felt Donna should have taken her daughter)

What do YOU think? I'm of the mind that
1. Donna EARNED that slot through hard work
2. The daughter is 16 and can take a bus to school, but mom is hovering
3. The person throwing the hissy fit is the selfish one
4. Donna should not feel bad that she EARNED the high ranking through hard work and dedication.
5. Donna should not apologize or make appeasements to this person, because the coworker is the unreasonable person here.

Please help me reinforce to Donna that she didn't do anything wrong and she is NOT selfish!!!

Comments

paulapngg said…
Clearly if said friend is only upset with Donna for winning a shift bid submitted by many people this is no more than a jealousy issue - You didn't do anything wrong Donna - you are not the selfish one in this equation!!!!!!
Jill said…
"What do YOU think? I'm of the mind that
1. Donna EARNED that slot through hard work
2. The daughter is 16 and can take a bus to school, but mom is hovering
3. The person throwing the hissy fit is the selfish one
4. Donna should not feel bad that she EARNED the high ranking through hard work and dedication.
5. Donna should not apologize or make appeasements to this person, because the coworker is the unreasonable person here.

Please help me reinforce to Donna that she didn't do anything wrong and she is NOT selfish!!!"


I agree with what you've said completely.
Annie said…
Um, yeah. It sounds like Donna's "friend" is really just someone that's content to take advantage of Donna's kindness and generosity, and isn't willing to give any in return.

I agree with everyone else Donna. You didn't do anything wrong.
Joyce-Anne said…
This woman is quite comfortable of taking advantage of other people's generous natures. Way to go Donna on being a hard-working and valued employee! That woman needs a reality check.
ligirl said…
Hi, everybody! Thanks so much for all your support and kind words! It really means a lot to me! It's comforting to know that not everyone thinks I'm a monster. I'm really still reeling...I've known this friend for about 3 years now and as Sue mentioned, she is a friend outside of work and has been for quite awhile. She is a good person and has really been a good friend to me...she has given to me as well, and been a sympathetic ear when needed. I'm shocked to see how upset this has made her with me, and truth be told, I miss her. I'm just hoping that time helps her put things in perspective. In the meantime though, all of your opinions and insights really help. Thank you! P.S. Hi, Joyce! Great to hear from you!!!

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