The fairy tale and the real world
The fairy tale we envisioned:
We'd move to Florida
We'd have family to help us and provide support for our issues
We'd have them around the dinner table often
We'd do things together, visit theme parks, zoos, tourist sites
The reality:
We are the caretakers of ALL
We are watching someone slowly die because they think it is too hard to take care of themselves
We don't get a break
We never have people to our house
We are constantly bailing out others of their frequent crises (but don't get the same in return)
Frankly, it fucking sucks. I am tired of it. I wrote a long post, but the party it is directed at probably won't listen to the blunt message contained in it, even though she reads the blog every morning.
I feel like Ed and I never catch a damn break...when do we get our fairy tale, our vacation cruise, our disney passes, our company, our relief?
The question is, do I give up trying to make a difference, or do I post a message that is long overdue? Or do I tell someone to stop reading the damn blog because I am tired of censoring myself? (and Donna and Joyce are probably tired of hearing all that I want to write, but don't)
Your opinions are appreciated and encouraged here.
**In the interim, I'm putting it on the myspace page. If you're already on there as a friend, you'll find it. If not, email me and I can add you on. It may or may not end up over here, too-that's why I'm putting it over there.
We'd move to Florida
We'd have family to help us and provide support for our issues
We'd have them around the dinner table often
We'd do things together, visit theme parks, zoos, tourist sites
The reality:
We are the caretakers of ALL
We are watching someone slowly die because they think it is too hard to take care of themselves
We don't get a break
We never have people to our house
We are constantly bailing out others of their frequent crises (but don't get the same in return)
Frankly, it fucking sucks. I am tired of it. I wrote a long post, but the party it is directed at probably won't listen to the blunt message contained in it, even though she reads the blog every morning.
I feel like Ed and I never catch a damn break...when do we get our fairy tale, our vacation cruise, our disney passes, our company, our relief?
The question is, do I give up trying to make a difference, or do I post a message that is long overdue? Or do I tell someone to stop reading the damn blog because I am tired of censoring myself? (and Donna and Joyce are probably tired of hearing all that I want to write, but don't)
Your opinions are appreciated and encouraged here.
**In the interim, I'm putting it on the myspace page. If you're already on there as a friend, you'll find it. If not, email me and I can add you on. It may or may not end up over here, too-that's why I'm putting it over there.
Comments
I hope you get your fairy tale, at the very least, part of it.
Believe me, that has been a topic of conversation A LOT lately. If my favorite sister ever decided to move off Long Island, I know I would be jumping ship. ;)
Thanks for coming to visit. The original intent for the blog is to use it as *my* therapy. However, the person involved gave Ed crap about what I wrote. (Even though he agrees 100% with what I say). x
Yeah, I can be brutal when I see stupidity...
I just started another County Parenting group of Love and Logic, (check out their website) because SO much of it works for RELATIONSHIPS too, not JUST parenting.
The Goal, and what you have FUCKING GOT TO DO...if You want a life with your sweet baboo ....Is place the responsibility of the person BACK on that persons' shoulders. I'll explain more later..
BUT if THEY KNOW YOU will Deal with it...
WHy should they?
thats a nutshell I gave to go my 14 yo is all RAMBO"d up.
((HUGS))
Make CHanges NOW or nothing WILL CHANGE!!
NOW
GO==
CHANGE
MAKE A PHONE CALL TO MAKE A CHANGE
SAY NO
DO IT
I
m
WAITING
@!@@@
Girl, you crack me up! You hit the nail on the head, but the other adults in the picture have allowed for the situation to happen.
For instance, Ed agrees with every word I wrote and the other adult and I talked yesterday and both of us said the exact same things. However, neither of them will say to this person what they say to me. It needs to be said.
(when I wrote it last night, I was channeling my Dad's tough love mentality)
Be there soon
Bob
I feel your pain. I hope your fairytale comes true.
and so far the tally is:
Post it:12
Don't say anything: 0